Topic initiated on Monday, September 11, 2006 - 10:19 AM
|How to develop concentration in NAMAZ|
I am a new member. I have been into chatting and pornography for the last many years, but recently i decided to quit all these bad things. I started offering prayers and reciting holly Quran. The problem i am facing is that I can not develop concentration during Namaz. bad things and ideas and images, what I have seen for years, always comes in my mind. secondly whenever i open my email to check official things my mind tried to go back what i have decided to leave. Can anybody helps me in this regard. Any wazifa for removing bad imaginations from the mind or anyother way out. I really did not want to go back in that ugly world.
Posted - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 5:37 AM
Concentrate on what you are reciting during Namaz.If you know the translation, consternate on the translation if don’t then on arabic.Whenever your mind go some where elsc,bring it back and concentrate what you are reciting during prayer.The best part is, you will get the double rewards for your effort to concentrate in the prayers.
This is the hard time for you.Nothing happened without the wishes of Allah.Ramazan is just nearby.This the month of Allah, any one who wish to come closer to Him,this is the time for it.When Allah will closer to you then devil won’t come.
Plan in advanced for ramazan,see what ever the routine works you can withdraw in Ramazan.Try to spare maximum possible time for the ibadah not just Fasting, fard Namaz and Taravi but lots of nafl ibadah as well, recitation of Quran and so on.
Posted - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 9:14 AM
|Usmani Bhai...thanks for the advice. May Allah give u the reward for taking out time and listening to other's problems. I will try to apply this formula from today.|
UNITED ARAB EMIRATES
Posted - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 11:31 AM
|How to Overcome Porn Addiction |
By Sheikh Ahmad Bin Hamad Al-Khalili
It is to be noted that logging in and browsing pornographic sites is forbidden because a Muslim is always commanded to lower his/her gaze, let alone give a loose rein to his/her hungry eye to look at the private parts of others. More importantly, such acts cause psychological and social injury. Besides, many people in general, and teenagers in particular, waste their lives and times doing things which Allah forbade them to do. A Muslim is always commanded to spend his time in useful things, cherish what benefits him in the present, plan for his coming days, and always make the reward of the Hereafter his/her top priority.
Our advice to those young people is that they should fear Almighty Allah regarding their life and youthfulness. They are to bear in mind that they will be reckoned for these two and will be questioned what they have done with them. The Hadith says: "The feet of a son of Adam will not be removed (meaning he will be standing for reckoning until he is asked about the following five), unless he is questioned about five things: his life and how he has spent it, his youth time and how he managed it, his wealth from where and how it has been spent, and his actions how close or far they are from his knowledge."
Man will be questioned about his life since it is the greatest Divine gift. Those, however, waste their life browsing these porn sites and thus spoil the greatest Divine blessing given to them, namely life. Man is granted this life not to spend it in quest for lusts and desires of the flesh, but to utilize it for the life of eternity, the Hereafter. In that eternal life everything is blessed, no poverty is there, no sickness, no senility. That eternal life is only for those who lead this life in straightness, uprightness and conformity with the laws of Allah.
Let those young people, then, fear Allah regarding their youth. Youth is not a time for play or whimsical actions; rather, it is the time for fruitful work and action, ambition and perfection.
The youth have always been the indicator of progress or decline of every nation or people. The more they stick to the dictates of virtue and uprightness, the greater their nation will become. The more they fall in the den of vice, the lower their nation will go. Thus, we have the necessity for right and moral upbringing of the youth.
We advise all those young people to consider the value of their lives and stop wasting it in trivialities. They should bear in mind that death may overtake them all of a sudden. All people are like prisoners in a cell waiting for their execution. No one knows when, but they should prepare themselves for it. Almighty Allah says: [Every soul shall taste death.] (Al `Imran 3: 185)"
The following working steps to fight porn addiction are for all, no matter their age:
Step One: Admit that you can't give up.
Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.
Step Two: Admit that only Allah can get you out of this.
You know, after trying through so many ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.
Step Three: Your life and death are all in Allah's control.
Decide to put your complete trust in Allah, Who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death, and to bring this problem to Him and seek His help first and foremost.
Step Four: Do a self-analysis.
Do an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points, bad points, and analyze your addiction, trying to understand how you reached this point.
Step Five: Make a specific repentance to Allah.
Admit to Allah and to yourself and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. Do not make a general request for repentance. Specifically list your mistakes and, in particular, your addiction to pornography.
Step Six: Be open and ready to receive Allah's help to change.
You know your sincere repentance must be followed by action. Be ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful, even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the Internet alone.
Step Seven: Ask for the removal of faults.
Ask Allah with sincerity, humility and regret to help you never repeat this action (looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past.
Step Eight: Do a nightly self-evaluation.
Every night do an honest self-evaluation of your behavior and be ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.
Step Nine: Make lots of du`a’ (supplication) and try to increase your taqwa (fear of Allah).
Continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah. Seek to be consciousness of Him wherever you are. Increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.
Step Ten: Preach and practice.
Don’t just "move on" after Allah has blessed you to get out of this addiction. Help others you know with this problem through regular contact and sincere advice, respecting the etiquette of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. By the grace of Allah, helping others will help you maintain control over your addiction, and you will help another Muslim or another human being to get out of this destruction and misery.
Posted - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 3:25 PM
|Assalamualikum. SubhanAllah you come back and InshaAllah Allah will help you to remove this bad shed from your heart. Whenver it comes to your mind, take abolution or Odu again, (no matter if you are in the middle of Salah) and hold Quran in your chest (Say Please Allah help me), open Sura MulQ and Sura Ar Rahman and read the meaning, try to understand and feel it that Allah is talking to you (please don't recite without knowing the meaning). The meaning of these two Sura are peaceful and it will get in your heart and wash everything InshaAllah. Please go to mosque During each Salah, see all of your muslim brothers (make fresh your eyes), Say salah behind Imam. Go outside where you can see green grass field and be greatful to Allah who make this beutiful and InshaAllah you will be in Jannah which is the most beutiful. You are intelligent mashaAllah, why don't you beg Allah '' Oh Allah make me blind to see bad things, open my eyes and heart to see good things which you give, open my ears to hear good talk, open my nose to get the flavor of Jannah. Please Allah forgive me.'' |
ZazakaAllah U khair.
Posted - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 5:16 PM
Thanks for the great suggestions and support. My heart is now very big because a number of people are encouraging me and appreciating me. Earlier in my office every one started saying in taunting tones that Ali you have started Namaz. Is every thing alright. and beleive me I have started feeling embarasment, but now i started inviting them to to go to namaz and inshallah i will continue to do this. May Allah forgive my sins.
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