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[quote]Assalam alaikum hibah & Bhavittre and everyone else,

Islam is silent on many things, permission from a wife is one such thing. However that does not mean one can go about abusing the system. The story of the person Hibah narrated makes me sick to the stomach. If you love someone, you do not do things that offend or hurt that person, even if that action is allowed. If you still do it, then it shows how inconsiderate and selfish you are.

You read the sura Nisaa and you can clearly realize that the purpose of multiple marriages is to support the orphans and poor women. That is the underlying theme. Since the Quran does not explicitly prohibit marrying women for lust or for a reason that is not charitable, and polygamy was widely practiced during that time for all kinds of reasons, most scholars concluded that it is allowed to have multiple wives no matter what the reason (charitable or for one's lust).

Having said that, I would also like to point out this verse in sura Nisaa:

Quran 4.27: Allâh wishes to accept your repentance, but those who follow their lusts, wish that you (believers) should deviate tremendously away from the Right Path.

It gets quiet clear that to follow one's desires, lusts (shahawaat) and inner-self; this is not the Islamic way.

In the end, it is left up to the individual. If, like in the story Hibah narrated, a man follows his lusts, and treats the faithful wife like crap after all she has given him, then he should be mindful that Allah subhaana-o-ta`ala is swift in taking account and inflicting punishment. Allah is Aziz-un-Zuntiqaam. A pious Muslim man would be fearful of God, have taqwa, and would not be unjust to his wife. He would not hurt his wife like this. Allah loves His creations, the obedient wife is also one such creation. If her husband hurts her, then he has hurt Allah's creation. How can a person like this expect to be close to Allah when he hurts Allah's creations and is inconsiderate towards their feelings?

In a Friday sermon I heard that Abdullah-ibn-Abbas, a companion of the prohet and later a great scholar and interpretor of holy Quran, he used to be afraid of asking his wife of his rights on her. He feared Allah and thought that if he demanded his rights that she was neglectful of, then Allah would hold him accountable for all the things he was neglectful of in fulfilling his obligations towards her. This is the level of taqwa we all should have.

May Allah guide us to the straight path.[/quote]

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